Life, love, and limerence
One of the recurrent themes that comes up when trying to make sense of a difficult limerent object, is the concept of narcissism. It's quite satisfying if you've been ensnared by a self-centered …
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Reader jaideux suggested a post on narcissistic LOs. It's an important topic, and a real danger for limerents. Anyone who feeds the limerence cycle is a threat, but narcissists can combine the worst …
One of the most destructive forms of limerence is when a married person becomes limerent for someone else. There is an abundance of pain to go around: most obviously for the innocent spouse, but also …
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Another visit to the virtual coffeehouse, where important issues of the day get decided by important people. Today's topic is stimulated by commenter Blue Ivy. She's dealing with limerence for a …
Living with limerence now has hundreds of posts on all aspects of life as a limerent. The complete archive of all blog posts is available here, but for those in a hurry, here are the key articles that …
One of the most psychologically interesting (and disconcerting) features of romantic life is the mismatch between what we think we want and what we actually desire. Few things illustrate this more …
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Another check in at the LwL coffeehouse. It's fun to sometimes speculate about the kinds of people who make for dodgy limerent objects. It's also useful to adopt a more mocking or cynical view …
Every now and again I receive an email from someone who has become an object of infatuation for someone they didn't mean to attract. Having come across the concept of limerence they realise that they …
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Limerence can be neatly described as an altered mental state of intense infatuation. An obvious question raised by this definition is: why does it happen? What causes it? While it's a natural …
Following on from last week's musings, this week I've decided to inaugurate a new feature for the blog: the everlasting thread. The goal for this is to be a specific place for open discussions - a …
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Limerence is all about obsession, but sometimes the thought loops that ensnare us are surprising. Today's case study is from Violet, who was making progress in recovery before hitting a new …
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One of the consequences of being burned by limerence is that it can make you a bit cautious about romance. The discovery of limerence, and the wisdom gained by recognising that your psychological …
