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The loneliness of No Contact
I've talked before about the loneliness of limerence. The isolation associated with limerence comes in large part from feeling that it shouldn't be happening, and that it's a shameful secret that the …
The benefits of No Contact
One of the most effective methods for neutralising limerence is also one of the most obvious: stop spending time with LO. No contact FTW! But given the amazing capacity for limerents to daydream, …
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Case study: Nothing works…
Clara is a midlifer who - in a story familiar to regular readers - fell unexpectedly into limerence for a co-worker. Swept away by emotion, she started an affair. "I knew it was wrong but thought …
Case study: polyamory and unwelcome limerence
Today's case study is from Ashley, a reader who is polyamorous and in a polycule with three partners. I'm going to confess at the outset that I find some of the terminology for these new social …
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Dealing with limerence in marriage
One of the commonest situations where limerence becomes a destructive force in life is when it happens within the confines of a marriage. Unsurprisingly, I've written about this scenario many times in …
Case study: should I wait for my limerent husband to come to his senses?
This week's dilemma is from a reader who is not themselves a limerent, but discovered the phenomenon to her cost when her husband became besotted with another woman: My husband changed personality …
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How to get over an office crush
When you put a group of attractive people together, in an environment where they work closely on collaborative projects, they sometimes fall in love with each other by accident. This could be great …
Keeping secrets
One of the best ways to understand limerence is as an altered state of mind that constitutes addiction to another person. There is a solid basis to this claim, given what's known about the …
Coffeehouse: it’s all in the eyes
Time for another topic of conversation in the coffeehouse. Smooth and stimulating A few days ago I had an email from Reuben who asked about the importance of eye contact in initiating limerence. …
How indecision worsens limerence
A question that commonly comes up after people discover the concept of limerence is: can I have the good without the bad? I'm having it and eating it, so there The euphoria of early limerence …