One of the nice benefits of running this site is that I get to hear from lots of interesting people about how limerence is affecting their lives. A surprisingly common lament - often voiced quietly or …
Rewriting history
Commenter Maddie asks about the disorienting strangeness when limerents - especially ones who have embarked on affairs - rewrite the history of their marriage. Suddenly, a life together that had …
The Devil within us
Following on from previous musings about how breaking the limerence habit can feel like an battle with an internal version of yourself that is greedy and has poor impulse control, I've been thinking …
Transition complete
*Taps microphone* I think this is on. Welcome all to the newly configured site. Hopefully all is well, but no doubt I'll be chasing broken links and glitches for a while. If anyone spots something, …
A new era
Well now. I've been typing away here at LwL for almost two years, and am still having a good time of it. Lots of people email me to share their stories, and thank me for setting this place up, which …
Can limerence be safely harnessed?
At first limerence is amazing. And then it isn't. This transition - from exhilarating to exhausting - mirrors the transition from initial high to desperate dependency for drugs of abuse, which is …
Life as a limerent: autopilot mode
One of the most disruptive aspects of limerence is the total attention-capture that sets in. At first, the limerent is OK with that - after all there's nothing more interesting or enjoyable in their …