Following on from the post on libido, here's an interesting article in Psychology today about long term romantic love. It is possible to sustain the romantic/erotic connection for many years. It …
Limerence, libido, and the challenge of long term romance
In the last post I analysed the sometimes strange intersections between lust and limerence. One thing that both phenomena share is transience. For lust, it can be very short-lived. Limerence is more …
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Limerence and sex
From the time it was first defined, limerence has been closely associated with sexual desire. LO is wanted as a sexual partner, rather than an intimate friend or companion. [Aside - it would be …
Limerence and the friendzone
We've all been there. Limerence is nucleating, and you are getting the euphoric thrill of connection with a new person. They are rapidly becoming your LO, and you are trying to gauge the degree of …
Hard choices
Here's a great presentation by the philosopher Ruth Chang on how the choices we make create the distinct person that we are. It's not specific to limerence, of course - more related to the concept …
Integrity
Integrity, n. 1 Moral uprightness; honesty. 2 wholeness; soundness. Concise OED How does integrity relate to limerence? I think both meanings are relevant. The first relates to leading a …
Article on limerence as pathology
Here's an interesting article from The Week that outlines some of the history of Dorothy Tennov's work, and the current tendency to push limerence as a term reserved for pathological obsessive …
The two tribes
In her landmark book, Dorothy Tennov described how she had crystallised the concept of limerence around an interaction with a friend (who she liked and admired) on a plane journey, in which she came …
Help! Someone is limerent for me…
That laugh was a bit loud for your feeble joke, wasn't it? That gaze was quite prolonged. Why do they keep touching their hair? Is their hand shaking? Why have they bought you a gift? So. You …
Therapy for limerence
Much of the discussion about limerence in psychological circles explicitly pathologises it as an experience, and works from the premise that it is a mental disorder arising from an underlying trauma …
Infidelity and limerence
In a previous post I wrote about emotional affairs, but sometimes matters move beyond the emotional to the physical. Hearing the immortal phrase: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," has become …
A good vid
Busy today with a new cat. But here's a good TEDtalk on love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYfoGTIG7pY&index=1&list=PL0511CDD7379488C0 …